materials for adults/caregivers:
SUDDENLY RESPONSIBLE, a guide for adults.
This 20 page booklet is designed for adults caring for and interacting with children of any age who have had a parent(s) die. SUDDENLY RESPONSIBLE provides immediate, practical and simple tips for communication and interaction. In an effort to assist teachers, surviving family members, neighbors and community feel more comfortable talking with children who are grieving a parent’s death; this guide provides insight into how words and actions of others are perceived by grieving children given their ages and situation.
[PRINTABLE PDF File]
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SO YOUR LOVE LIVES ON, Video
This video, set to ILMF’s theme song entitled “So Your Love Lives On”, was produced to provide insight into the world of a child whose parents have died. The theme song lyrics are written in the voice of, (as if sung by) a deceased parent to a child. The lyrics describe to the child the parent’s feelings about leaving her alone in the world to grow up without parents. Simultaneously the viewers visually experience what a child might go through upon the death of her parents. The video has a unique approach to communicating both the child’s and parent’s perspective of the same experience. Understanding both the child and the surviving care giver’s feelings about their respective new life circumstances, as a result of the death of a child’s parent(s), is imperative to creating a smooth and healthy transition
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materials for children:
Currently in production; scheduled for release soon...
There are several additional resources that may be of value to you, such as additional readings, websites, and bereavement/counseling centers throughout the country.
Thoughts from children who have been there…
“I was unsure what to say to my nephew after his mother lost her battle with cancer ... having read the ILMF pamphlet I understood the power of an adult's words to a child during this difficult time. What we say must be directed to the child’s perception of what has happened - not ours! I am thankful for the exposure to this information.”
- Allen Sweric,
San Antonio, TX